235- THERE IS NO BLAME UPON YOU CONCERNING THE OFFERS OF MARRIAGE YOU MAY MAKE TO WOMEN INDIRECTLY, OR IF YOU CONCEAL IT INSIDE YOURSELVES.  ALLAH KNOWS THAT YOU WILL BE THINKING OF THEM, BUT DO NOT MEET THEM OR MAKE THEM PROMISES IN SECRET, UNLESS YOU SPEAK TO THEM HONOURABLY.   AND DO NOT MAKE THE INTENTION OF THE MARRIAGE UNTIL THE END OF THE TERM, AND KNOW THAT ALLAH KNOWS WHAT IS INSIDE YOU, THEREFORE TAKE HEED OF HIM, AND KNOW THAT ALLAH IS MOST FORGIVING AND MOST FORBEARING.

This Ayah is about the virtuous and decent way of men approaching women during their Edda concerning marriage.

As the marriage dissolves only after the end of the Edda, a man may approach in Edda indirectly in the following circumstances only:

1-    A woman who has been divorced three times.

2-    A woman who’s husband died.

3-    A woman divorced by court on her request, as her husband does not have the right to take her back except with a fresh wedding contract and dowry.

Making indirect offers of marriage to any of those women during the Edda, is to express interest or in a passing remark which can be understood as personal interest.

Allah the Highest is forbidding us from:

1-    Meeting women in secret before marriage.

2-    Making them secret promises.  All promises associated with the marriage should be witnessed.  Like all the marriage terms, they should be agreed upon and witnessed and preferably written in the marriage contract.

3-    There should be no intention to try to have the marriage before the end of the woman’s Edda.

4-    There should be not intention to have physical relationship with this woman meanwhile.

Allah the Highest talks here about our intentions, which comes before the actions.  Than Allah the Highest reminds us that we should take heed of the fact that He knows what is inside us, what we think, what we meant to do, and why.

It is important to note that Allah the Highest is warning us about the intention of doing what may lead to adultery.  Adultery is a sin Allah the Highest told us not to approach, not just commit. “DO NOT APPROACH ADULTERY” (S:17 A:32)

This is because adultery usually has preparations and events leading to it, therefore avoiding being in a situation where adultery may be committed is safer than being in this situation then trying not to.

235- THERE IS NO BLAME UPON YOU CONCERNING THE OFFERS OF MARRIAGE YOU MAY MAKE TO WOMEN INDIRECTLY, OR IF YOU CONCEAL IT INSIDE YOURSELVES.  ALLAH KNOWS THAT YOU WILL BE THINKING OF THEM, BUT DO NOT MEET THEM OR MAKE THEM PROMISES IN SECRET, UNLESS YOU SPEAK TO THEM HONOURABLY.   AND DO NOT MAKE THE INTENTION OF THE MARRIAGE UNTIL THE END OF THE TERM, AND KNOW THAT ALLAH KNOWS WHAT IS INSIDE YOU, THEREFORE TAKE HEED OF HIM, AND KNOW THAT ALLAH IS MOST FORGIVING AND MOST FORBEARING.

This Ayah is about the virtuous and decent way of men approaching women during their Edda concerning marriage.

As the marriage dissolves only after the end of the Edda, a man may approach in Edda indirectly in the following circumstances only:

1-    A woman who has been divorced three times.

2-    A woman who’s husband died.

3-    A woman divorced by court on her request, as her husband does not have the right to take her back except with a fresh wedding contract and dowry.

Making indirect offers of marriage to any of those women during the Edda, is to express interest or in a passing remark which can be understood as personal interest.

Allah the Highest is forbidding us from:

1-    Meeting women in secret before marriage.

2-    Making them secret promises.  All promises associated with the marriage should be witnessed.  Like all the marriage terms, they should be agreed upon and witnessed and preferably written in the marriage contract.

3-    There should be no intention to try to have the marriage before the end of the woman’s Edda.

4-    There should be not intention to have physical relationship with this woman meanwhile.

Allah the Highest talks here about our intentions, which comes before the actions.  Than Allah the Highest reminds us that we should take heed of the fact that He knows what is inside us, what we think, what we meant to do, and why.

It is important to note that Allah the Highest is warning us about the intention of doing what may lead to adultery.  Adultery is a sin Allah the Highest told us not to approach, not just commit. “DO NOT APPROACH ADULTERY” (S:17 A:32)

This is because adultery usually has preparations and events leading to it, therefore avoiding being in a situation where adultery may be committed is safer than being in this situation then trying not to.